It’s been a very subdued week at Baan San Fan following on from the sudden and tragic death of Nat. Losing anyone in these circumstances is heart-rendering but the loss of a child always seems so much worse because they never got the chance to live their life.
We’ve spent much of this week to’ing-and-fro’ing to the village where Nat was born. This has given us the opportunity to meet some of his real family all of whom made us feel incredibly welcome at such a difficult time. Thanks to the generosity of our friends and their families (that donated to our appeal) we’ve also been able to cover the costs of the memorial and the cremation.Thank you all so much.
Essentially what happens is that a large covered area in the middle of the village is dedicated to the memorial. The coffin, flowers and tributes sit at one end adjacent to four chairs where the monks come and sit. Various people come to pay their respects and are fed at one of the many tables.
A Christian ceremony was held on Tuesday. Sam led prayers and song and was joined by a local minister. Clearly I cannot tell you what was said but everybody seemed to enjoy the various eulogies. Afterwards shared a meal with the villagers.
On Thursday (yesterday) we returned for the Buddhist festival. The monks ate food at the memorial. Afterwards the coffin was moved onto a truck where it was blessed by a monk. We followed the truck for around 3 miles to the temple. There followed a short ceremony before the body went for cremation.
Nat was a lovely boy that had been with us for 6 years . He was an accomplished footballer too and was always first onto the football field in the shirt of his beloved Chelsea. He was very popular with the other kids but at 14 he was a little too old to play with the younger children and instead tended to hang around bicycle repair shop with Num and Ta. He always seemed fascinated by the work that goes on there and idolised Num. Wherever he was, be it kitchen house, repair-shop or football field; Nat always had a beaming smile on his face. He brightened up your day and he will be sadly missed by all. Rest In Peace.